I am a bit of a Schizophrenic worrier.
Sometimes when a
something happens that most people would normally worry about, it doesn’t faze
me. I take the view that what will, be will be and worrying will do nothing to
help the situation. However when I am confronted with other situations, the
possible repercussions run around my head for days and I lose sleep, sometimes
over trivial things.
Even before BB was born, I was worrying;
Could we afford it? Will I be a good dad? Will he grow up to be a fine upstanding member of society? (Which is becoming increasingly difficult to do in current society?)
After he was born, those worry’s remained. But they were now
joined by new worries; Is he warm enough? Is he too warm? Is he being fed
enough? Is he being overfed?
All these and more are thoughts I believe go through every parents heads. Then there are thoughts that are special and only apply to you and your child.
So what’s on our mind this week?
DEEP BREATH:
something happens that most people would normally worry about, it doesn’t faze
me. I take the view that what will, be will be and worrying will do nothing to
help the situation. However when I am confronted with other situations, the
possible repercussions run around my head for days and I lose sleep, sometimes
over trivial things.
Even before BB was born, I was worrying;
Could we afford it? Will I be a good dad? Will he grow up to be a fine upstanding member of society? (Which is becoming increasingly difficult to do in current society?)
After he was born, those worry’s remained. But they were now
joined by new worries; Is he warm enough? Is he too warm? Is he being fed
enough? Is he being overfed?
All these and more are thoughts I believe go through every parents heads. Then there are thoughts that are special and only apply to you and your child.
So what’s on our mind this week?
DEEP BREATH:
Is he getting enough food? Why his head is still a funny shape? Should
his head have gone back to normal by now? If something says it’s suitable for 4
month old and he is 4.5 months old, is it suitable...even though he was born 5
weeks early? Will letting him stand up have an effect on his legs later on in
life? Is he teething? Why has he gone from feeding every 4-5 hours to feeding
every 3 hours? Is he rejecting the bottle or just upset? Are we gonna be able
to manage once wifey goes back to work? Should I have really bought those new
shoes? Should we try and move him to formula because breast feeding is becoming
too demanding? When should we introduce “real” food? Why's he still bald? Why do I worry so much? When he stays over at Grandparents, how
will they cope with a crying baby? Why do I worry so much? Can he tell I’m
worried and does it affect his mood? He is 4 month old and hasn’t been sick
yet, does that mean he will grow up to be a virus fighting superhero (OK, thats
not really a worry, it would just be cool!) Am I a good husband? Should I be
doing more? Is wifey happy? Could I tell if she wasn’t? And the one that will
haunt me for years.....Am I a good dad?
In the days and weeks to come, I am sure some of these
worries will either disappear or of course come true, all I know is, I will
have more worries to come!
As always, thanks for reading my drivel, please comment below and tell me it will be alright :)
FTD
It's nice to see that Dad worries too. My husband was stoic during those first few months and it was only later I learned that he was FREAKING OUT.
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